In this video, I talk to Dougie Forlano, an up and coming star, who has had the amazing fortune of connecting and learning from some of the most successful people in the world.
I wanted to pick Dougie’s brain on how someone can connect with powerful mentors and stand on the shoulders of giants, so to speak. I am really blown away by Dougie positive energy, he has a downright contagious energy.
What’s more, Dougie’s brain is like a sponge, he has a wealth of knowledge at a very young age.
Here are some extremely important take aways:
Step #1: You Need To Figure Out Who Do You Want to Connect With
Don’t set any limits on yourself. It’s important to define exactly who you want to spend time with.
If you could connect and befriend anyone in the world, who would you want in your life? Who would you want to spend time with and learn from?
Remember: nothing is out of the possibility. The world is your own oyster!
To date, I’ve recorded podcasts with some of the smartest people in the world in the fitness & nutrition industry. I’ve also had Stephen Amell on my podcast and have the great gift of hanging out and bonding with some truly remarkable people.
Going forward, I’d like to connect with A-list actors, and even workout with guys like Brad Pitt, Christian Bale & Ryan Reynolds. That’s definitely a goal of mine, and it’s just a matter of time before it happens… The point is, nothing is out of reach.
Step #2: You Need To Understand That Everyone Is A Human Being
Don’t put anyone on a pedestal. Allow your personality to flow by not judging yourself. Realize no matter how big someone is, they are a human being just like you.
If you want to connect with powerful mentors, you must learn to treat them as a human being, not looking at them as an object. The ego views someone as an object to enhance oneself.
“Imagine how cool it would be if I was friends with [celebrity name here]… Imagine what my friends would think? OMG, what if I get a picture with this person…”
This is the ego talking – you’re essentially looking at a human being as an object to enhance your own self. NOT the best way to connect with someone.
Be present to the moment, enjoy the time with no agenda!
This brings us to the next point…
Step #3: You Need To Lead With Generosity
Don’t view someone as a mentor that you can take from. Lead with generosity, think about how you can offer that person significant value. This is so important!
Be specific; don’t just tell someone you want to help them – use your brain! How can you help this person?
Several times a week, I’ll have people that want to be involved with Kinobody hit me up. In most cases, they’ll say the same thing: “How can I help, or is there anything I can do for you?” This leads to nothing. I want go-getters, action takers that are smart and proactive enough to see a gap they can fix and do it FOR me.
That way, I don’t have to spend time and energy trying to think about how I can get someone involved. I get instant value! Now, here’s the beautiful thing: when someone gives me value, every cell in my body wants to help them.
Everyone to date that is involved in Kinobody stood out because they didn’t sit on their butt or ask me what they could do for me… They proactively helped me.
Step #4: You Need To Ask, Be Willing To Learn & Quickly Implement
As Jim Rohn says, “Asking is like the ocean of opportunity.” Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. Just be willing to learn; people want to help people that are willing to learn.
Here’s the key though: speed of implementation. Put someone’s advice and tips into action immediately. Don’t wait! Successful people want to help people that are keen to learn and are ready to take action on a moments notice!
Never Forget That You Create Your Own Success
There’s plenty of other important keys in the video, so make sure to watch the whole video all the way through.
One of the other keys is the importance of being at ease in the moment – unattached from the outcome. Focus on your path and your journey; it’s fine to get help along the way, but never dilute your own self by believing that you need one single person’s help to succeed.
What’s more, when people feel like you are desperate for their help, they will naturally be turned off. People want to help people on the rise. If they wanted to give to charity, they’d give to charity.
Instead, they want to mentor you because they see the possibility in you, not to save you from your problems! So seek help, but don’t be dependent on it. It’s all going to be okay!
If a mentor gets the sense that you aren’t dependent on them, they’ll only want to help you more.